Knowing you’re both doing everything you can to avoid unwanted pregnancy and STI’s increases trust and relaxation, and that increases pleasure! Do you know you can’t tell by looking whether someone has an STI, and if they do and you don’t use protection then the chance of you catching it is high.

Using condoms properly will prevent STIs and pregnancy, so get familiar with them as part of a sexual relationship.  Hormonal contraception (such as the pill or implants) is a great way to prevent pregnancy, but doesn’t prevent any STI’s or HIV, all of which are on the rise in Ireland.

Making sure that there won’t be any negative consequences from sexual activity is a really essential part of good sex!

Most people have sex for pleasure, and rightly so. It’s a great way to spend some fun time with someone you trust and want to be with. A great place to start is to figure out alone what feels good for you and what doesn’t – we learn lots about our own way to feel pleasure through masturbation. Knowing these things makes it easier to relax with a partner too.

When you’re with another person – asking before and during sex, listening to the noises being made, and understanding their bodily responses can ensure that everything feels good for you and your partner. That increases both pleasure and trust. The easiest way to know is just check in and ask – you don’t have to read their mind. Everybody’s body is different!

Talking and listening is actually the foundation of good sex, at any age! Talk about sex first – if you aren’t ready to talk about it, are you sure you’re ready to do it? It’s really important to be able to talk to the person you’re thinking of having sex with about consent, pleasure and protection.

Who you have sex with, where, when, how often, how it feels, protecting yourself, making good choices for you, these things are important because your sexual health matters as much as your physical and mental health – and the three are very closely linked. Good communication with your partner, your support people (like you parents or friends) and your health providers gives you the best chance of having great and healthy sexual experiences now and throughout your life.